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How are you People Pleasing at Work?
How does your unhealed People-Pleasing Energy show up in your job?Well, for me it showed up as consistently and constantly going above and beyond! Other duties as assigned? Throw 'em at me! I'd spot a problem that was Definitely Not My Job and I'd create a plan of attack and fix it. In my last job this looked like me deciding the store website wasn't optimized for online commerce and social media - SO I BUILT A NEW WEBSITE FROM SCRATCH. I also designed and implemented the training for the staff on how to use the new website and all its features. I was making myself "INDISPENSABLE"! So.... why didn't they love me? Obviously, no matter how good a job I did, how much extra work I assigned myself, and how much value I added to the company - there were still going to be conflicts, disagreements, and interpersonal issues. That's a normal part of being a human working with other humans. But because I'd been going OUT OF MY WAY to prove how awesome I was, when those things happened they hit extra hard. And instead of being a normal work thing... they felt like being personally disliked and attacked. So what happens then? Resentments start to build. I start to stress about going to work. My emotions are heightened. Eventually one Final Straw breaks my spirit and I leave the job. Sound familiar? This is a cycle I've gone through MANY times. And I've seen it happen for my clients over and over. But there's a way out. And it hinges on stepping into your own self worth and finally ditching your people-pleasing habits to become the Main Character of your story. Like one client, who went from burned out and struggling to get her needs met by a boss who didn't give a single "duck"... to creating her own job with a boss she admires and now is collaborating with on a book! Or another client who decided to ditch the hustle and took a job with a 4-day work week only to consistently work on her days off because OTHER PEOPLE might need her... who now leaves the office at 5 each day and is totally chill about telling collaborators from other companies "Sorry, that's my off day! We'll need to schedule that meeting another time." This is what happens for you when you:
And, unfortunately, those our things we've all been socialized to NEVER EVER DO. That's why I started the Good Girl Deprogramming offer - because if you want to undo a LIFETIME of programming fast? You need support. Apply today for my most powerful coaching offer yet, because it's time to start living your life for YOU! <3 Megan |
Hi! I'm Megan Gillman!
Recovering perfectionist. Unicorn Fairy Godmother. Passions: women's empowerment, creating connection, sustainability, authenticity in life and work Check out the resources I offer below, and sign up for my newsletter!
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